Nancy Weinbeck
Nancy Weinbeck

One of our Bayview residents recently said to me, “It’s good to push your limits, but you don’t have to exceed them.”

We were talking about someone he knew who was told by their doctor to exercise for 15 minutes every day but that pushing beyond that would be detrimental. That had me thinking about the importance of understanding and respecting our own limits.

Fitness is a great illustration of the need to respect limits. But it holds true for so much more. Many of us feel the pressure to use technology tools like Zoom as a way to connect with friends and loved ones, attend classes and so forth. But one can also experience Zoom stress and fatigue. It’s OK to take a break when we reach our limit. Many of us are overwhelmed with the barrage of news stories constantly battling for our attention. It’s OK to take a break.

In the midst of uncertainty and elevated anxiety, it’s healthy to acknowledge we’ve reached our limit. In fact, limits force us to take pause. It’s OK to reach out and ask for help. Maybe it’s time to sign up for grocery deliveries. Or call out for meal delivery. Or get help with chores that we might have done ourselves. Respecting our limits can preserve us during chaotic times and help us build reserves so our strength is there when we need it most.

How do we know when we’ve reached our limit? We can let our emotions guide us. If we feel that we are pushing ourselves too hard (and we are the only ones that can truly judge that for ourselves), then it’s time to pull back and respect the limit we just reached.

Are there times to push beyond our limits? Perhaps. But probably not when we’re unsure of what tomorrow will bring.

Be kind to yourself. Express gratitude for what you are able to accomplish within your own personal limits. Know that growth is always possible and our limits can change accordingly. There’s no better time than the approaching holidays to take a step back, do a realistic appraisal, breathe a sigh of relief and be grateful for the limits that keep us safe, well and protected as we ride through this pandemic storm.

The compassion you feel for others is precious, and so is the compassion you have for yourself.

So here’s to celebrating our limits. And here’s to life filled with what is truly limitless: love. Wishing everyone a most blessed holiday season and sending you all limitless love from all of us at Bayview.

— Nancy Weinbeck is the CEO of Bayview in Queen Anne.