Hailey Magee
Hailey Magee

Dear Hailey,

Who are you and what are you doing here?

Signed,

A Perplexed Reader

 

Dear Perplexed,

Good question! Allow me to clear up the confusion and introduce myself.

My name’s Hailey Magee. I’m a Certified Life Coach, an avid bookworm, and your new columnist here at The Queen Anne & Magnolia News.

This column was born of a desire to help folks feel less alone in their struggles with family, relationships, love and work. As a Life Coach, I have the privilege of hearing individuals’ deeply personal stories: their triumphs, their fears, their challenges and beyond. In the course of a single day, two or three of my clients may reveal that they’re facing a similar issue—and yet they feel terribly alone in their strife, as if they’re damaged or “broken.”

When I reassure them that there’s nothing to be ashamed of—that their feelings, actions, and fears are a completely common, completely human response—the relief they feel is palpable. Incredible, how the simple words “You are not alone” provide such a powerful salve for isolation and anxiety.

 

Perhaps you can relate? For example, do you ever feel:

- Like you’re the only one who feels deeply lonely, but simultaneously too anxious to go out and make friends?

- Like you’re the only one who can’t say “no” and stand up for herself?

- Like you’re the only one who turns into a completely different person when you get involved in a romantic relationship?

- Like you’re the only one who feels totally addicted to social media, work, stress, or to other non-chemical substances?

- Like you’re the only one who can’t overcome the inertia keeping you from making the changes you want to make?

 

Well, you’re not the only one—but it’s horrible to feel that way, isn’t it? This column exists to debunk the “I thought it was just me” myth, shed light on our common challenges, and offer science-backed, research-supported steps forward. From puzzling patterns in romantic relationships to setting boundaries in the workplace and beyond, we’ll dive deep into the myriad challenges many of us face at home, at work and in love.

As a Professional Certified Coach with a degree in Gender Studies and an overactive passion for psychology, I have always been driven by a desire to understand myself and others. The way I see it, self-understanding liberates us. Knowing the “why” behind my own actions and feelings has helped me feel less isolated by wrapping explanations—explanations shared by thousands— around my pain, my fears, my desires, and my patterns. It’s given the story of my life a framework that I can understand, as well as the power to move forward with conscience, agency and hope.

When I’m not writing for the Queen Anne and Magnolia News, I’m helping my coaching clients conquer the people-pleasing pattern, set empowered boundaries and master the art of speaking their truth. I work with folks who have a history of putting others’ needs before their own—people-pleasers, codependent folks, empaths, that sort of thing—and I’ve worked with over 100 clients across the United States, Canada, Yemen, Ireland, South Africa and more. If you want to learn more about me or my work, you can find me on Facebook and Instagram at @haileypaigemagee or visit my website, www.haileymagee.com.

Do you feel like you’re the only one facing a particular challenge or struggle? Or perhaps you have a question you’d like to see answered in the column? Email me at hailey@haileymagee.com for the chance to have it included here.

Perplexed, perhaps you’ll see yourself reflected in these paragraphs. If you do, remember—it’s not just you!